We live in a highly neurotic world. At least 99.9% of people experience a neurotic state where the brain struggles to process frustration, and change becomes inherently stressful. This neuroticism affects every aspect of our lives, including our vacations. Rather than bringing the relaxation we crave, vacations can become another source of stress.
Think about it: we process vacations as a significant change, which our brains, conditioned by stress, perceive as a threat. Instead of feeling calm and rejuvenated, we often end up feeling more stressed. To truly enjoy a vacation, we must first transition from a neurotic state to a calmer, more balanced one. Journaling, meditation, and coaching are powerful tools that can guide you back to your natural state of equilibrium and balance.Â
Recognize the Signs
How can you tell if you're in a neurotic state? Imagine you're at the airport, ready to start your vacation. You see your airplane, and it’s smaller than you expected. Panic sets in, you feel claustrophobic, and you’re triggered. This reaction is a clear sign that you need to reconnect with your roots, restart, and transform. This moment of panic is an awakening sign—a prompt to begin your journey back to your authentic self.
The Path to Transformation:
Now is the time to book a coaching session, start journaling, meditate, and initiate the process of returning to your true self. While it’s possible to embark on this journey alone, it’s often more enjoyable and effective with the support of a coach. Trusting someone else, perhaps for the first time, can be a crucial part of your journey.
The Myth of the Perfect Vacation:
Our culture leads us to believe that we need vacations to escape our stressful lives. But we often approach vacations from a place of lack, not abundance. We spend more money than we think we should, compare ourselves to others, and face countless frustrations—from delayed flights to inadequate hotel services. These unmet expectations only increase our stress.
To truly enjoy a vacation, we need to change our belief system. Instead of approaching vacations with a mindset of lack—lacking time, money, luxury, or calmness—we need to embrace abundance. If you go on vacation feeling rushed, the universe will reflect that lack back to you. If you stress about money, your children will sense it and amplify that stress. The universe always responds to your state of mind.
Shifting Your Mindset:
To stop the cycle of need and stress, you must quiet your ego and reconnect with your authentic self. There’s a playful, curious part of you that trusts the world is a beautiful, safe place. Connect with that part. Believe that your children and partner are here to enjoy life with you.
Change your belief: instead of expecting stress, expect tranquillity and love. Visualize a peaceful vacation where your children are happy and independent. Remember, the feeling of lack spreads like a virus through the entire family. But abundance can spread too—it just takes more work to cultivate.
The Truth About Vacations:
Here’s a hard truth: when we live in abundance, we don’t need vacations or weekends to rest. Our culture has ingrained in us the belief that we need breaks, but our wisest teachers—our children—show us otherwise. Have you ever seen a child need more than a few minutes to recharge? We have the same innate ability.
Statements like "I love to travel" come from abundance, while "I need a vacation" come from lack. Your mindset shapes your experience. Approach your next trip with a mindset of abundance and watch how your experience transforms.
The Journey of Awakening:
If you find yourself experiencing panic attacks or extreme stress, especially in situations like flying, it’s a sign you need to start your awakening journey. You cannot control the external world, but you can control your internal state. This realization is the beginning of a profound transformation.
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